Self-Care is Not Selfish

Self-Care is Not Selfish

What do you do for Self-Care?

I was talking with a friend the other day about her very stressful job. She had some really valid points about a situation at work that was complicated and unfair. Much of it was out of her control. I listened. I sympathized. I validated her frustrations. And then I asked her what she was doing to manage her stress. Her response: “Nothing.”

The conversation then took an unexpected turn. We started exploring the concept of stress management and self-care. We talked about the possibility that her work wouldn’t seem as stressful if she was doing more to counteract the stress. I made sure she understood that I wasn’t trying to put it back on her or blame her for stress. Her work situation was very stressful and not her fault. However, her stress related to it was spiraling out of control because she wasn’t managing it.

Too often we feel helpless or at the mercy of a stressful situation because the circumstances aren’t our fault or we can do very little to change it. It is easy to forget that we have 100% control over how we react to situations and how we manage our stress and frustrations.

When you manage your stress you can be a better employee, parent, friend, spouse, sibling, and general human being. And it’s not just you who benefits – everyone around you benefits. This is why self-care is not selfish. It’s necessary to get through life. Remember this every time you start to feel guilt or think you don’t have time to devote to yourself.

Self-Care Practices You Can Start Today

Regular Massage

A lot of people will get one or two massages in their lifetime. Maybe it was on vacation or someone gave them a gift certificate. They think of it as a “treat.” In reality, massage can be one of your biggest weapons against fighting stress and promoting self-care. Regular massage – not just when you are really stressed and feel like you are going to lose your mind. Massage can help prevent you from ever getting that stressed out in the first place.

Massage therapy promotes blood flow, helps you sleep better, relaxes you, and gives you time to focus on yourself. The very definition of self-care.

Chiropractic Care

Just like with regular massage, regular chiropractic care can help you maintain your body, stay in alignment, fight off allergies, colds, and other illnesses, and generally feel better. Don’t just go when your back hurts. Regular chiropractic adjustments keep your body tuned up and ready to face the world at your best.


According to the Mayo Clinic: “Meditation can produce a deep state of relaxation and a tranquil mind. During meditation, you focus your attention and eliminate the stream of jumbled thoughts that may be crowding your mind and causing stress. This process may result in enhanced physical and emotional well-being.”

There are a lot of apps and videos to help you get started. Start small with just a few minutes a day. Give it some time to see if it works for you.

Healthy Eating

Food is medicine or poison depending on what you put in your body. The better you eat the better you feel and the more equipped you will be to face obstacles.


Get your body moving and produce endorphins. Your body’s natural response to exercise is a great stress reliever. Exercise also helps you get out of your head and focus on your body. Start easy and work your way up. Exercise doesn’t have to be hard and unpleasant. It doesn’t even have to happen at a gym. Do something you like – walking, hiking, bike riding, swimming, find something you like to do and it won’t be “work” to get into shape.

Making time for your hobbies

If your main source of stress is your job you need to regularly get away from your job and focus on other things. You can’t be at work or thinking about work all the time. That is not living. Get back to your hobbies and the things you love to do, or start something new. Put time on your calendar for your hobbies. It’s important. Schedule “meetings” with yourself for proper self-care. Don’t break those meetings, you are your own most important client.

Good Sleep

We have all experienced that feeling of life seeming way too hard when we are tired or completely exhausted. Everything is literally harder when you aren’t getting proper sleep. The best way to start getting better sleep is sticking to a schedule and routine – just like toddlers do. Go to bed and wake up at the same time – even on the weekends. Create a peaceful environment by hanging blackout curtains, having white noise or music, a comfortable bed, and whatever else makes you feel relaxed. Like I mentioned earlier, regular massage really helps promote good sleep.

Spending Time with Loved Ones

Your loved ones LOVE you. Spending time with them will help remind you who you are and what makes you special. We can lose sight of this when we are busy, working, and stressed out. Laugh with friends. Unwind with family. Do something fun together. It is so important to connect to other humans and have fun. You can even book a couples massage and really double up on your self-care.

Which Self-Care Strategy Will You Start With?

What are you going to do first? Do you have a suggestion that isn’t on our list? Let us know.

What can we do to help you with your self-care and stress management?

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All Body Kneads massage therapy has many massage therapy options and an infrared sauna to help with self-care. We are here to help.

Schedule a treatment today and focus on YOU!

Surprising Things Massage Therapists Can Help With

Surprising Things Massage Therapists Can Help With

Massage therapists can be a very integral and important part of your health plan. As they work with you regularly, they get to know your body and your trouble spots. They learn the specific issues and health struggles of each patient. He or she can show you stretches and things to do in between appointments to improve and support your health. This could include meditation, aromatherapy, sleeping positions, good pillows to use, self-massage tools, hydration, ergonomic work practices, and more.

If you are recovering from a specific injury or disease, your massage therapist can become part of your care team to treat and support all aspects of your healing. Most people who become massage therapists do so because they have compassion for people, want to help people, and have an innate understanding of the body and its relationship to pain and healing.

Many people only think of massage therapy as a “treat” or for relaxation. Massage can be relaxing but it can also be part of physical therapy or be included in the treatment for a variety of different issues – some minor and some pretty major.

Massage therapy can help with a surprising number of things you may not have thought about. If you, or someone you know, is struggling with any of the following, please consider massage therapy. Lansing has many talented massage therapists and we at All Body Kneads are happy to help you.

Massage Therapist Can Help with Many Things

The variety of things massage therapists help with is truly remarkable. It is also worth noting that they can also help to maintain your good health as a maintenance plan when you achieve your health goals. It is a good way to manage stress and promote good sleep.

Alzheimer’s and Dementia

For patients who are living in a state of confusion, a calming massage can relax, reassure, and comfort. Caretakers and patients benefit from the relaxing, meditative results from the calming touch and grounded state provided by a massage.

A massage helps bring Alzheimer’s patients back to the present and returns them to their bodies to deeply relax and relish human contact. For those who are separated from family and friends, this caring, gentle touch can ease the fear and loneliness often associated with dementia and Alzheimer’s. All Body Kneads is honored to work with your family member, friend, or patient who is living with Alzheimer’s or dementia. We use a specially formulated lotion to address the thinning skin of elderly patients and we make sure the space is always warm, serene, and welcoming. Click here for more information.


Facial massage can help keep the skin looking young, smooth, and firm. During a facial massage, your massage therapist will use upward, gentle, yet stimulating strokes. In addition to helping your face look younger, massage therapy helps your entire body and your soul. Our emotional age can feel years beyond our physical age when we experience excess stress, worry, and anxiety. Take the time for some self-care by managing your stress and feel like yourself again. Click here for more information about facial and full-body massage.


It is important to find a massage therapist who is knowledgeable in relaxation techniques and is aware and sensitive to acute anxiety and anxiety disorders. It is also important that the massage studio atmosphere is welcoming, calm, and comfortable. Nothing about the experience should trigger more anxiety. Click here for more information on how massage can help with specific types of anxiety.


Massage therapy is gaining recognition as an effective medication-free treatment for arthritis. Massage accomplishes this in two ways: by loosening up the joints, and by improving circulation. There are several different types of massage that can alleviate arthritis pain. Click here for more information.

Back Pain

Eighty percent of adults experience back pain sometime in their life. Not sure if that makes you feel better, but it certainly doesn’t make the back pain go away. The good news is that massage can really help. If you are thinking about surgery to ease your back pain, often massage therapy and chiropractic care can help you avoid surgery. But not always. Regardless, massage can absolutely help with the symptoms before, after or as an alternative to surgery. Click here for more info and a list of the main causes of back pain.


Studies have also shown that massage seems to offer both physical and emotional benefits for people with cancer. If you are concerned about massage therapy during chemotherapy read Can You Get Massage During Chemotherapy.. All Body Kneads is also associated with the non-profit Mid-Michigan Massage Therapy Insitute which provides reduced or free massage to cancer patients, survivors, and caretakers. For more information, click here.

Chronic Pain

Massage therapy is often prescribed as a regular, non-evasive, non-addictive pain management tool. If massage therapy can help relieve pain for even a few minutes, it’s worth it. Just ask someone who suffers from chronic pain. More often it provides longer-lasting relief as well. Chronic pain can cause other symptoms like loss of sleep, elevated levels of stress, depression, and anxiety. These issues, coupled with the pain, create a vicious cycle of pain for those who suffer from the problem. Massage therapists can help with many of these things. Click here for more info.


Massage can help with both a detox of toxins out of our system for health reasons and help with recovering from addictions and drug use disorders. As a massage therapist my belief is that, no, the massage itself does not remove toxins from the body. However, it can assist the body in eliminating them and alleviate some symptoms. Click here to find out how.

Fatigue and Chronic Fatigue

Fatigue is something that most of us have experienced at one time or another. It is usually due to overexertion or an unusual amount of stress and will go away with rest and relaxation. However, some people suffer from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). People who suffer from CFS frequently complain of extended periods of extreme fatigue with seemingly no perceivable cause or reason. Massage therapy can help. For more information or a list of CFS symptoms, click here.


If you have Fibromyalgia, or you suspect you do, you know all too well the frustrating pain that comes and goes and moves around. It doesn’t help that your pain is compounded by the negative effects of everyday stress. Pain is stressful. It’s a vicious cycle. Massage can help break that cycle. The symptoms of Fibromyalgia can vary from mild to severe. Some patients find massage helpful even during severe flare-ups. Others prefer to wait until their pain is at a lower level to receive massage. Your health care provider and massage therapist may be able to help you decide, but ultimately you know what is best for you! Click here for more information.

High Blood Pressure

While massage alone probably won’t control diagnosed high blood pressure, it can certainly be part of an overall treatment plan. Often times stress is also a contributing factor to elevated blood pressure–so finding healthy ways to relax and find balance and calm will help. Massage can help with a wide range of issues and symptoms having to do with a lot of conditions, not just high blood pressure. Click here for a list of causes and symptoms of high blood pressure.

Improve Sleep

The best way to achieve healthy sleep habits is by natural medication-free means. Studies have shown that regular massage therapy reduces fatigue, promotes relaxation, and contributes to high-quality sleep. The benefits of massage are both immediate and long-term. People who receive massages experience a more restorative type of sleep, both immediately following the massage and even several hours afterward. Their bodies are more relaxed, with reduced aches and pains, and able to fall more quickly into a deep sleep. Click here for more information.

Joint Pain

Massage reduces swelling caused by fluid retention in the joints of the fingers, toes, wrists, and ankles. It improves blood circulation and promotes greater flexibility. A knowledgeable and skilled massage therapist will know the right techniques to use to help with joint pain and those suffering from arthritis. Find out more.

Mental Health

One of the first things to address with mental health is stress. Stress makes everything harder so managing your stress will help you better be able to handle what life throws at you. Click here for some more things that will help.

Parkinson’s Disease

While there is no cure for Parkinson’s, research supports massage therapy as a useful intervention for several of the symptoms associated with the disease. Daily exercise is recommended for people with Parkinson’s Disease and massage can help keep the body flexible and able to handle more activity. The frequency and type of massage will depend on the severity of the symptoms. Click here for recommendations and more information.

Pregnancy Massage

Massage before and after birth can help the delivery and recovery go smoothly. There are many things to consider with pregnancy massage and it is important you find massage therapists who are specifically trained for prenatal massage. Bilky Joda-Miller, owner of All Body Kneads is an experienced prenatal massage therapist and is also doula. Click here for more information.

Scar Tissue

Management of scar tissue through massage, stretching, and exercise is essential to ensure proper remodeling of the scar takes place and normal mobility and function are restored. In general, the scar must be fully closed and no scabbing present to begin scar massage. Your primary doctor should assess your scar before beginning scar massage. Click here for more information.

Are you interested in working with our massage therapists?

We at All Body Kneads would love to talk to you about your health plan and create a service plan that can best address your issues. Please contact us at:

Business Phone (517) 898-2899
6910 South Cedar Street, Suite #4
Lansing, MI 48911-6912

You can also schedule an appointment online at here.